There is a growing number of celebrities who are resorting to 'surrogate' (surrogate) to have children and are also openly talking about it. Popular surrogates include celebrities like Naomi Campbell, Priyanka Chopra, Elon Musk, Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton.
But what is the experience of being a celebrity surrogate?
Shana St. Clair has done it twice, and each time her experience has been different.
Shana's phone rang. On the other hand was Catherine. When Shana recalls the moment, she says she began the conversation without a prayer: 'Listen, before you read the news, I want to tell you that I had another surrogate. has received services and has just given birth to a child.
Shana sat up to support herself. She had become pregnant with Catherine's child only a few weeks earlier. But now Catherine has got another child through surrogacy. Shana now learns that she wasn't Katherine's only surrogate. Now what does that mean? Does Kathryn still want to have the baby that is still in Shana's womb?
Shana dares him and tells him that she wishes you had told me about this earlier. "Can we discuss this after my check-up tomorrow?" Shana asked.
Catherine agrees and hangs up. Shana sent Kathryn a message on the phone a few hours later. According to him, I am somewhat disturbed by this news. But I'm happy for you. Make your child happy. We need to talk after the check-up.
Catherine did not respond to that text message, nor did she make a phone call the next day. Shana was introduced to the world of surrogacy through a magazine article. Shana's three children are playing outside on the family farm in Pennsylvania and are deep in thought while drinking hot tea.
He learned about traditional surrogacy. Where the surrogate mother's own eggs are used. Another type of surrogacy is called gestational surrogacy, where eggs and sperm are inserted into the surrogate mother's womb.
Shana also learned the difference between commercial (i.e. giving birth for money) and altruistic surrogacy (i.e. giving your services for someone else's benefit).
In this article published in the magazine, surrogacy was described as a legitimate practice. Even commercial surrogacy was considered a gift to childless parents.
A thought crossed Shana's mind.
She was just 30 years old. She is a mother of three children. She and her husband do not want to have any more children. 'I could be a gestational surrogate,' Shana thought.
To join a surrogacy agency, Shana and her husband filled out several questionnaires. According to Shana, she was examined by psychologists and doctors and had dozens of meetings with lawyers. A few weeks later, he received a phone call. A celebrity couple, Jennifer and Mark, have read her profile and now both express their desire to meet Shana in New York.
Shana immediately got in touch with them. "They were kind people," she says. He tried to understand my life and my children.'' This included his daily income as a hairdresser, which was also given to him during this period. Shana received a total of 50 thousand dollars in three years.
It took time for them to conceive. When they gave birth, Jennifer and Mark held their hands as they thanked them for their new family.
Jennifer called Shana a few months later to ask if she could tell Kathryn about them. Shana agrees to this.
Catherine belongs to a famous family. She had been trying to have a baby with a surrogate and another for several years, and after Jennifer's successful experience, she now wanted to talk to Shana about it.
Shana says that now that she looks back, she can only see the dangers from the first call to Catherine.
Shana says she did not hire a surrogacy agency to avoid fees and asked her lawyers to draw up a contract.
According to her, since she already passed the psychological test when she came in contact with Jennifer, she doesn't need it again. Shana contracts with Kathryn to try surrogacy three times.
First they had to be part of a process called Cyclic. In which the surrogate and egg (egg) donor 'synchronize their periods' through their daily hormone injections.
Shana and her husband then visited Catherine at an 'IVF' clinic, where the fertilized egg was to be implanted in Shana's womb.
Catherine was waiting for him dressed in a nice dress.
Shana moved closer to hug her, but Katherine pulled away. They did not hug. They tell Shana that they are only there till the transfer and then they will leave. Shana and her husband were taken back to their hotel by their driver.
In her place, Shana thought it couldn't be the same thing as Jennifer and Mark. The first attempt to conceive was unsuccessful. Before the second attempt, Catherine invited Shana and her husband to dinner and told them about private jets and designer furniture.
Shana felt suffocated in the conversation because she was no equal with Katherine. Shana says that the next day at the fertility clinic, Catherine was holding a bottle of pills. According to him, the first attempt was not successful due to Shana's nerves.
He gave Shana anti-depressants. Shana thanked her and refused to take those medicines. But Catherine continued her efforts. She kept saying Shana what is your problem? A bullet won't hurt you. Shana thought she couldn't argue anymore.
Shana puts a pill in her mouth so that when Catherine isn't looking, she will spit it out somewhere. This time too, Shana did not get pregnant. Now they had another chance.
This time when they met at the clinic, Catherine spent most of her time on the phone talking to her mother about the interior design of one of her houses. He rarely spoke to Shana.
Ten days later there was good news for them. Shana's pregnancy was positive meaning she was now pregnant. "I was so happy," Shana said.
But Catherine on the other hand did not show any kind of emotion. According to her, she does not want to express too much happiness because last time too the surrogate was pregnant but then the pregnancy was lost.
"I'm sorry, I didn't know that happened," Shana said.
Shana said Kathryn was saying 'it was her fault.'
Katherine said the surrogate waited 12 hours at an airport to see her ailing father. Shana said she was taken aback by Kathryn's next comment. "I told him not to travel, but he did and look what happened," Catherine said. Dead body.'
A few days later, Shana's hCG level dropped slightly, but the doctor told her to stay hopeful. He called Catherine and she replied very happily: OK, let's see how this thing goes.
Soon after, Kathryn calls Shana to say that another surrogate has just delivered one of their babies, and it's quiet after that. Shana continued to have her regular medical check-ups. She used to walk an hour to the clinic. He didn't even know now whether Catherine wanted to have the child or not.
After four weeks his hCG level dropped dramatically. Their pregnancy was lost. Shana calls Katherine but she doesn't answer. Still he somehow conveyed this sad news to them. A few hours later, Catherine said, "I'll call you soon."
After several days of not receiving a call, Shana texted Catherine herself again. In this message, he wrote, 'Hello, I hope you and the baby are healthy. Shall I send you the rest of the bill?
On this message, Catherine replied that "Shana, our relationship is over now." I am surprised at your coldness on the birth of my child. Send your bills.
After that, Kathryn and Shana did not speak to each other.
According to Arya Samuel, who runs a VIP surrogacy agency, celebrities may be more open about surrogacy now, but it has taken years.
Both he and his business partner had presented themselves as surrogates so are well aware of these challenges.
She says that when a high-profile personality comes with their business managers, assistants, head of security, it can be very intimidating for the surrogate.
According to Arya, good agencies help build relationships. Apart from other background checks and psychological check-ups, she also ensures that the surrogate is in satisfactory condition and advocates for her if necessary.
According to him, there are also instances where surrogate women have overstepped their bounds. She asks the child's parents to come on reality TV shows or ask them if they can introduce them to a cousin who can fund their film script.
Arya says that the contract should make it clear that this is not all part of their deal. After her four-year experience with Catherine, Shana's previous surrogacy agency contacted her to introduce her to another couple. After meeting and expressing his love for her, he is going to present himself as a surrogate one last time.
This time Shana has given birth to two twins. Shana says she needed a good deed like this to wash away the stain of a very bad experience with Catherine.
According to her, she had two very good surrogacy experiences and one very scary and oppressive experience. Nowadays, Shana runs a hairdressing salon in her town. During hairdressing, her clients engage her in local and celebrity gossip, and the conversation often turns to having children and raising a family.
According to her, every week she meets people who are struggling to have children, those who have recently had children, those whose children did not survive, those who cannot have children, those who say There are those who never want to have children and those who want to have children and are looking for ways to do so. Surrogacy is not for everyone. But to some extent it is a private matter. If everyone wants to be a part of it and feels empowered, we shouldn't judge other people's choices.
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